How coachable are you?

Ethical coaches don't coach everyone knocking on their doors.

Because not everyone is coachable.

That brings us to 'coachability'.

A doting mum wanted me to coach her son. I couldn’t.

I met and spoke with the son.
A very fine young man - thoughtful, responsible, and self-motivated.
He won my respect quickly.

And yet, I turned down the coaching request.

Because I sensed something essential wasn’t there yet.

That “something” is coachability.

Coaching works only when there’s a real internal yes to the work:
→A genuine hunger for change
→A willingness to change yourself, not the situation or other humans
→A sense that coaching is the right intervention - right now

Without this, coaching becomes a conversation.
Convo that would still be thoughtful and insightful.
But not transformative.

Coachability matters to me because most of the work doesn’t sit with me.
The coach doesn’t fix or prescribe. I don’t.

Back to that young man.
He didn’t think he needed coaching.
His mum felt he needed it.

I went with him. As a respect for him and for the work.

People come to coaching because an undesireable pattern keeps repeating, or because effort no longer creates movement.

When that happens, coaching can be the most effective intervention.

And when you see the work you need to do, I sit with you as your coach, to untangle the mess, separate facts from emotions and assumptions, pinpoint the constraints, and turn it into one clean move forward - alongside you.

Sometimes I’ll surface a blind spot in my own quirky way.

You may laugh, but underneath, you sense the discomfort you need to work on.

Sometimes the pattern you can't see is the one holding you back.

Most of the time, I help anchor scattered thoughts and good intentions into actions that actually change how you show up.

My door remains open - for the young man, and for anyone ready to do that kind of work.

And I l’ll sit with you - only when you are ready to do the work.